I received a letter the other day as the high school TPP instructor that was similar to many I have received in the past. Here is a part of that letter:
“I know that the time you spent with us was well appreciated and will help us in the future to stay out of bad situations. I really got something out of the I Statements and the skit. I thought it was going to be bad but it was fun and helped me think ahead of what I should say or how I should act”.
Even though I did not want to talk to my parents about sex I did. We had a nice talk that was kinda awkward, but we wouldn’t have had that talk if it wasn’t for you.”
Now, for those of you who don’t get the chance to be part of this program, here is the question freshman and sophomores ask a parent: What is your opinion on teens and sexual relationships (or teens and abstinence)?
I thought I would let you in on 5 simple rules to follow that increase the chances that this very important conversation will go well.
- Ask early, not when you NEED to know their opinion for any reason. As she said above, it helps you stay out of bad situations.
- Use the I Statement she refers to. Stating how you feel BEFORE you talk is important. Most teens use awkward or uncomfortable, but most don’t ever talk because the fear parents will overact, or think it’s not a conversation it’s a confession! State what you feel using the I Statement before you start.
- Keep the conversation general. It’s easier to get parents real opinions on relationships, values, risks, abstinence, and what they have seen over the years when they are not talking about you specifically.
- Give your parents props for their experience and insight. They really do have a lot more experience in relationships than you, and parents love when teens actually give them credit for something! ☺
- Blame TPP class for having to ask the question. Everyone does! Check out Tell it Like it Is for more tips and information you may need or want to use.